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Vegas and My Lost Wedding Ring

I lost my wedding ring about 2 weeks ago. Never mind that I hadn’t taken it off my finger since our wedding over 15 months ago…until then.

When I realized it wasn’t on my finger, I wanted to say that losing it really wasn’t my fault.

I wanted to make all kinds of excuses, blame others, and feel sorry for myself. After all, losing a wedding ring is a big deal…or is it?

*If I didn’t have a serious illness of multiple sclerosis, then I wouldn’t have needed any imaging, and thus I wouldn’t have taken off my wedding ring. (I’ve got enough to deal with without this happening!)

*If I hadn’t been so tired after undergoing 4 procedures in one day (3 in the morning and one in the afternoon for a closer look), I wouldn’t have forgotten to get my ring out of my locker and put it on my finger before I left the imaging center. (I can only do so much in a day!)

*If I had been able to return to the imaging center that day before it closed, perhaps it would have still been there. (Probably someone took it!)

I did allow myself a brief pity party, and then I moved on, both in my head and with my actions. Here’s what helped me:

1. Prayer: I prayed, asking God to help me to find the ring, but if I didn’t, to forgive myself, learn from it, and use my loss for good.

2. Gratitude: I thanked God that I had a wedding ring. Whether or not the ring was lost or found, it represented an ongoing Big Love between my husband and me that is priceless, and we are forever grateful that we are together.

3. Persistence: Over the next week, I returned to the center several times, hoping that someone might have found it. I scoured the center’s parking lot, my car, my purse, and my home. Ultimately, all to no avail, but I gave it my best shot.

4. Acceptance: I released my lost ring: “It is what it is.” I made the conscious and honest choice not to blame my disease, my fatigue, the imaging center or others. I decided to lovingly claim full responsibility for my loss, knowing that I had done the best that I could under the circumstances. Loving myself as God loves me.

5. Reframing: I closed the gap between heaven and earth. How? I looked at the situation with new eyes and a bigger perspective. Why not have fun with even this circumstance? After all, my husband had an upcoming business trip to Las Vegas, and I was planning to join him over the weekend. Perhaps we could book a wedding chapel and renew our vows, along with a new wedding ring.

Fortunately, our original rings were simple, inexpensive titanium rings, and we were able to get a reasonably priced replacement easily.

We’ve booked the Vegas chapel. We’re headed there next week.

Fun or fury,

Forgiveness or resentment,

Responsibility or blame,

Joy or sadness,

Victor or victim.

My decision, with God’s help. And, this time I chose the Higher Way.

Perhaps the road less traveled. Where heaven meets earth.

That’s our challenge as God-infused beings on this earth.

And, with God, that makes all the difference.

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.”

Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken

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